Difference Between Living and Surviving !?!

Really what’s the difference? It’s a HUGE difference. Now if you aren’t a dreamer or if you don’t want better for your life this blog is not for you. Let’s talk about surviving first. Yes we are all survivors of something. Are you working just to pay bills? Of course that is not the goal but is that what you’re doing? We were not put here to work to pay bills and have nothing left afterwards. We are all here to serve our purpose and utilize our gifts. Just surviving isn’t enough! And you should not be settling. So here’s a start ask yourself, what do I love to do? What am I good at? What makes me smile? And it may not be right now but you will find your gift. I always say follow your bliss and when you follow your bliss it won’t be called work anymore you will enjoy what you’re doing and you won’t be just surviving. Living! What’s living? May be different for you but living to me is many things. Living to me is waking up excited about what the day will bring. I’m not waking up saying ughhhh I hate this job! Living to me is waking up and saying, think I’m going to go to Paris this week. Living is grinding for your vision and making it visible to all. Living to me is retiring both of my parents by the time I’m 30. Living ahhhh Living is doing whatever it is you want to do. Stop the limitations! We have no limits! Dream big! And I’m not saying it’ll be easy in fact it’s going to be hard. But you will make your dreams reality and you will be stronger than ever! Now follow your bliss I’m tired of you complaining about your job, I’m tired of the crying cause you don’t have extras to do what you want too. LIVE! Everyday is not promised. ❤️

A Boy Told Me…

A boy told me wait up for me.
A boy did not show up.
A boy said you are the only one.
A boy had more than one.
A boy said I love you.
A boy did not mean it.
A boy said when we moving together?
A boy is planing to move with someone else.
A boy says he’s honest.
A boy is not!
A boy blah blah blah!!!!!!
The difference between a boy and a man, very clear…one speaks one shows. An average girl cannot tell the difference but a woman ohh she knows. But us women have such big hearts we let the boys in and try to see if they can be molded. We give ourselves headaches than wanna blame them. LOL it ain’t they fault it’s ours. Females are extremely smart and I don’t understand why we put ourselves through the many things we go through but guess what, it’s time for a change. Get on your shit! Do what you love! And light will be attracted to you. If that guy you so in love with doesn’t notice you’re a great woman and is giving you more pain than love he does not deserve you. Accept the situation as is and move forward. Tired of seeing women be weak. I’m not average you not average so act like it! I bumped my head a few times I’d admit but I’m young. And no I’m not making an excuse I’ve learned. But I see women 40 and up blaming men. Maybe he’s old, maybe he’s young, maybe he’s not ready, maybe he’ll never be ready, maybe he’s stuck in the past. Whatever the case, don’t be so down on yourself because of the person you’re trying to pursue. I think people get so involved with giving so many chances, crying and asking the guy to love them being mad at other girls the guy mess with etc that they forget to put more into they self. You putting more negative energy into the situation it’s not going to get better. Put more into you! Positivity is key. Balance is key. Do what’s best for you first and the rest will follow…I promise. We are phenomenal ladies! Now is the time to do better. P.S I’m going to take my own advice, know that! 😉

Find Your Peace…

Really, what brings you peace? Think about it for a second. Our minds most of the time are filled with a million thoughts. It’s important for us to find peace and make peace with everything. When you are at peace life seems easier and your thoughts calm down. My peace…well I have many. My favorite place is my bathtub. I run a bubble bath, light candles and turn on smooth music. I close my eyes and imagine my personal paradise. Alone I am there with my feet in the sand staring at the waves. Feeling abundant ! You gotta try it! Close your eyes and create a place that you will never want to leave. A negative thought will not come over you because you will be exactly where you want to be. I also meditate. I try to meditate for at least 30 minutes a day. Meditation is one of the reasons I am so positive. Your body is relaxed and you’re taken away to the most peaceful place. I don’t care if your mate is your peace, your pet, your family, a destination just find it. You need it! Hell we all need it! When you are at peace you will see your life began to change. You won’t worry as much, you will than accept those situations that cause a billion thoughts. Peace is the way…peace is what you need. 😊

It’s okay to be Human…

I’m all about being positive but it’s okay to be human. We are going to go through things. And every bad situation we go through happens to build our strength. Not only that but it prepares us for what’s to come next. When something happens in your life that you weren’t expecting surrender to it. Not saying you’re being a wuss. Just saying accept the situation. Look at it in a few different ways. Everything happens for a reason. So the situation is there but not to stress you out. Don’t dwell on it accept it realize why it’s there and move forward. It will be days when you cry that’s okay let it out. We will mistakes and don’t beat yourself up cause of it move forward and don’t make the same mistake. And if you do, learn from that as well. We all are human, shit happens. And we all are strong enough to endure the pain. I’m here to tell you it’s okay 🙂

When You Get Confused…

I sometimes get these moments when I can’t decide on something or I’m lost because of what someone has said to me. Than in my mind a million thoughts are rushing through my head. I know for a fact everyone has those moments. So what can we do about it? Sometimes you have to write it out. Ask for others advice. Others that you can depend on. If you are lost because what someone has said to you ask them what they meant. I don’t know why we are so afraid to ask questions. If they don’t give you an exact answer move forward. We get so stuck on lil negatives we make it more than what it is and turn it into a big negative. Work through the confusion. It’s time for us to stop becoming prisoners of our thoughts. They should not be controlling us. Don’t beat yourself up when you get confused. Try different things to work through it. Good day people !

Nobody or Somebody ?

I really don’t understand why it’s so important for us to prove ourselves to other people. When really we should be just worrying about pushing the one in the mirror and proving to ourselves that we can be better. If you wanna prove to someone you are somebody go put on a suit and walk around in a busy city. Other people will think you’re somebody or you have a good job etc. But what will you get out of that if you aren’t actually trying to be somebody? Nothing!!! You’re wasting energy trying to prove that you are someone and you are no one until the one in the mirror is making changes to be better. Whatever your goal and dreams are do it for yourself. You will began to notice differences when you stop trying to prove. Once you do it for yourself it’s no more trying to prove. Everyone around will notice your work ethic they will see the changes you’ve made. You will be great! Every morning you wake up look in the mirror and say, “I am somebody and only person I have something to prove to is myself!” It’s time for a change people don’t make it so hard on yourself. We are somebody!!!

Down to Earth ! (Mandeecees)

This by far has been one of my greatest interviews. Not many know all the positives about Mandeecees because people are so concerned about the drama. I had the opportunity to sit down and talk with him. Mandeecees Harris is from Harlem, New York. I asked him was it hard growing up? He said, Absolutely! I grew up in the projects it was real rough! So than it made me ask what’s the hardest thing you ever been through? He said, “My family breaking up because of my mother being on drugs, but eventually other family members stepped up and we got through it.” Now I know you all watch Love & Hip Hop. I see Mandeecees and the first thing I think is HUMBLE. So I asked him, how do you remain humble with everything else going on around you? He said, “For the most part it’s like growing up not having to getting to a point where I have it now it’s always appreciated I know nobody owes me anything so I’m just grateful for every little thing.” I see him even though I didn’t really know him and you can tell that he has grown as a man and being humble helped him get to where he is. I asked Mandeecees who’s the biggest influence on your life? He said, “My mom because she got through her hard times she been positive almost 20yrs now I see her grind everyday she’s one of them.” “Also outside of my mom I’ll say like Jay-Z cause he from the projects and what he accomplished today it just gives us hope that anybody can do it.” And that’s right no matter how young or how old no matter where you come from anything is possible! I asked Mandeecees, what do you want people to know about you that they don’t know? He said, “I’m not like a talkative person but I’m trying now being that this whole camera thing this tv and movie thing I’m just learning to get comfortable with it and talking in front of crowds.” Where do you see yourself in the next five years? He said, “Shiddd Hopefully not in jail (knock on wood) I mean I’m still fighting this case so hopefully not there I wanna see myself alive and healthy and with my kids.” Nobody can argue with that! What’s the advice you’ll give to someone trying to make their dreams reality? He said, “Never Give Up!” “Believe in God, pray, act on what you speak and start taking baby steps crawl into that direction if you have too if you want to be a rapper hang out at the studio listen to beats write, if you wanna be a doctor go to school start reading books take steps to your dreams and goals and it makes it that easy to accomplish it stay consistent and never give up.” You know, I’m listening to him give me these answers and I could really tell that not many if any media person has ever tried to show the positive side to him. Mandeecees is very down to earth I spoke with him for about 3 hours. What touched me the most was that we have the same beliefs. So if theirs negative energy that’s what you’re putting out to the universe and that’s what you are getting you’re getting the negative. But if you can remain positive and find the positive in even bad situations you will realize your growth will be remarkable ! Most people that judge you don’t know much about you so if you’re willing to judge your best bet is to get to know the person first. And I did! Mandeecees is a very good man and he spoke from the bottom of his heart. I will never forget this day and if I can share more with you all I will. He has some major things coming up, stay tuned. Never Give Up! Yo Mandeecees! Part 2 ?